Polyamorous Relationships

I believe that the polyamorist view is not that natural way to have a relationship and that a man and woman should be in a commitment without other lovers. To make an oath to somebody, to be committed to them for the rest of your life does not mean that you can have other lovers coming into the relationship at any time you want, and say that you are deeply in love with them too. I see this as a way as cheating and trying to have everything that you want, which simply cannot happen. I think that this way of living would be hard on everybody around you including family and friends, especially if the couple has young children that might be confused about the way that their mum and dad are living.

Say one woman, having a husband and 3 kids who is bored with her life and finding it stressful to keep the relationships with them alive may reach out and want to find something to make her life more interesting. Another lover will give her a way to get away from her lifestyle and live a little. This is how why I feel people seek for that other person in their life. It is a way that they can escape and have everything that they aren’t getting from one person, that they can get from another. I believe this is wrong. Isn’t doing this just as much as cheating on somebody for the sake of doing some interesting or different, not the same as their boring lifestyle? It’s just like getting away with cheating. I also feel that if you are going to marry someone, you are committed to them and only them, and you obviously love them and married them for a reason, so why would you need anybody else? A marriage is a relationship where they can withstand any type of trouble and love each other eternally, and finding another partner is just a way to get everything.

Also, I feel that having a polyamorous relationship, especially if you have children, can take a toll on the way people think of you and how they view you. If you are in this relationship, obviously your morals and views on the situation is different to people who would reject the thought, therefore you are trying to change the people around you into thinking this is the right way. This situation may arise if in a polyamorous relationship, children are involved. The way they are brought up would be completely different to any other child, and they would grow up thinking this belief was the correct way to live. I think that this is too much for a child to be dealing with early in life and could have some sort of problems developing socially in later years, because people would not be able to accept the idea and so on.

Therefore I think the idea of polyamorous relationships is wrong, because of the effects it has on the people around you and how a marriage is there for commitment, not to get bored and then find another lover and for that to be OK. You can’t always have everything you want, it’s just life.