The Power and Wisdom of Love

You will never know true happiness
until you have truly loved,
and you will never understand
what pain really is
until you have lost it.
~ by Anonymous

To live is like to love -
all reason is against it and all healthy instinct for it.
~ by Samuel Butler’s Life and Love

1.) From the beginning, people are here in this universe because of love. Every individual is a by-product of love. Cliché as it may seem but love makes the world go round.

Defining love is relative on how you feel and experience it. Love, for me, is an innate natural feeling to all creations of the Ultimate. It might be real and abstract at the same time. It is like the blood running to our veins, the air that we breathe; the water that refreshes us; the food that brings energy; and all the essentials of life that nourishes us every moment of our lives. Love is an ultimate realization that we are human.

Loving is the major emotional characteristic of human. Humans love because of affection, relation, and reason. Loving comes in many and diverse ways such us love for God, love for family and others, love for the opposite sex, love for nature, love for own self, or just the presence of love to something or someone. The expression of love is regardless of how a person shows it. Loving is sacrificing. Loving is giving. Loving is unconditional. The strength of loving lies on the belief of someone on how much she/he loves a person. People love because they feel it. It is a give and take process among two or more people with one and uniform desire – love. People just need to be true to the desires of the heart in congruence to the mind in order for them to be the greatest lover. Logic is no longer important when we are blinded with love. I believe love moves every thing in its own mysterious ways. However, it still goes with the rule of nature that anything that is too much is bad. Loving too much considering some negative implications is no longer love. It is selfishness. When people love, it is equal; there is balance. The strength of giving love to both family and significant others lie to the intention of the heart and mind. Clear and honest plans or desires are best expressed by the actions of the heart. On the aspect of receiving love, what you give is what you receive. The weakness of giving and receiving love is selfishness and hidden intentions. When our desires are against the rule of nature, it is the time that we hurt each other’s feelings. Unconsciously, we forget some things when we love. We lose our sanity. But no matter what other people and circumstance say and dictate to us, it is still the heart’s voice that we will follow.

2.) When I love, I tend to be possessive. I want to own the feeling of happiness of loving and being loved. Still, I sometimes tend to hold too tight to my significant other to the extent that I am now invading his freedom and privacy. I love to be showered with affection. It is all natural. Who in this world will hate the feeling of satisfaction within when we are aware that someone loves us so much? I always want to own my loved one. In this instance, we tend to hurt our relationship and each other’s feeling. When these things happen, we fight. We argue. We exchange words against each other’s emotion. But in the end, we realize that we are both wrong. We forgot the essence of love. We were driven by our anger and blinded with the circumstance of the situation. Then, we realize that we are wrong. We will start to talk and ask forgiveness to the wrong doings that we had. We express our own sides, beliefs, and ideas. We bargain and come up with complement decision that both of us will agree. We consider each other’s individuality, freedom, qualities, and even our strengths and weaknesses. We realize our faults. We stand up and begin once again. We learned our lessons and now, we are better lovers. At this instant, we love ourselves and each other even more.

3.) “In order to love others and God, you must first learn to love yourself.” I believe this statement is a fact. It goes well with the adage, “you cannot give what you do not have.” Hence, in order to love God and others, I must love myself. I need to learn my own lessons. I must discover my own capacity of loving. How much can I bet and willing to give for love? Am I ready to sacrifice? To give? To be hurt? To let go? And to continue living?

By loving myself, I will fully understand the essence of giving love. I love because I can feel it within me. It is innate in me and that I am now ready to venture to a new relationship with others and with God. I will continue to love myself by finding someone who can share and help me to strengthen the love reigning in my life. We will nurture it together and utilize it for our own good and improvement as mortal beings. Loving myself means loving someone who deserves the same love that I am willing to give. This is the measurement of love – the ability to mingle with the person you are inclined of loving.

4.) Anger is also a manifestation of the nature of man. We are angry at times because we are deprived of some things or we are broken hearted for that matter. I handle my anger by self-evaluation. I pause for a while and give myself a chance to study the consequences of my anger. I will think about the things that made me angry and come up with solution to alleviate the anger that I have. Sometimes, when I am angry, I divert my attention to other things. I watch movies, go shopping, talk to a friend, pray, or just do my most favorite hobby. Above all, when I am angry, I cry to release the emotion and then recognize my lesson.

Eternal love is like investing to future. Yes, there is always hope. Hope for the best things to come and moments that will go about our own desires and plans. When we feel the urge of forever love, we plan for the future. Reality hurts because of the fact that the future is uncertain, unknown and unpredictable. But what is more important is that we hold on and believe using the power and wisdom of love as weapon and together we will face the future. Nothing is impossible when you believe. It goes on with faith and determination to stick into something you really love. Change is inevitable but love will always find its ways.

There are some moments that we expect. We forget reality. But it is but normal and natural. Planning is a means of survival. I plan in connection to the reality. I do not make plans that are restricted. I always find a way to have flexibility to all the matters of my heart and mind. I do not rush. I do not regret. Every experience is worthy, may it be good or bad, because the lesson it brought to me is indispensable.

But on handling my anger, thinking of future, and balancing expectations to reality, I tend to forget the presence of some people around me. I neglect the fact that they are with me all throughout. They are there to help and guide me and that I am not alone. The mere knowledge that they are there around me makes it easier to face life. Accepting the defeats that I have, differences, weaknesses, and imperfections that makes me human improves my relationship to everybody. When there is harmony within me, there is an assurance that I will expect to get the results that I wanted. Indeed, love is many splendid things. Love lifts us up where we belong. Therefore, the greatest happiness is to love and to be loved in return. The world and its people need love!